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Hi my name is Cinder! I post a variety of things which include posts that I find funny, amazing, cool, or just make me smile and help me detox. I hope it does the same for you!

Anonymous asked

Hi Froggie! Do you believe in the friendzone?

thefrogman:

I believe in something I call “unrequited like.” It’s a less profound version of unrequited love. I think this happens to all genders and it can certainly be disappointing. 

I’ve been on the planet a bit longer than a lot of my followers and maybe I can pass along a few things I’ve learned.

First, if someone has no interest in you. Move on. It will be hard. It might even suck for a while. But trying to win the affection of someone who doesn’t feel that way about you is a big waste of time. You are just going to cause yourself more pain. 

Second, being someone’s friend is not a consolation prize. Friendship is one of the most precious things on earth and should not be discounted into this absurd notion of the “friendzone.”

If you believe in the friendzone you aren’t the “nice guy” you think you are. Women are not objects to be won, and if they reject you, you should respect that. You cannot blame someone for not having feelings for you. It’s like telling someone who doesn’t like brussels sprouts to just start liking them. You cannot magically change their taste buds by saying the right words. 

And lastly, if they offer you friendship, do not accept it if you are just going to be resentful. Either truly be their friend and perform your friend duties with all your heart, or move along. 

In my opinion, if you think you got friendzone’d, you are no friend.

"Yes means yes"

falconeer:

“I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, although it is a kind of rape of the spirit - a dishonest portrayal or distortion of my own desire in order to appease another person.
I said yes because I…